12 years ago today, January 10, 2003, my life would forever be changed when my best friend of 10 years took her last breath in her battle with Cancer.
Anita Burden Johnson was the greatest friend you could ask for. She was intelligent, witty, ambitious, resilient, loyal and honest to the core!
The 1 and a half years of her illness taught me so much. Often times, you never know how strong someone is until you are facing a life and death circumstance. I never knew how much fight and backbone she had until I saw her in this battle. He biggest motivation was her 2 year old daughter, Atina, my godchild.
A mother will do all she can for her children. The hardest part was knowing that she would not see Atina and her 16 year old stepdaughter, Brittany, grow up and do amazing things. It was especially hard for her knowing that this would be he 2nd mom that Brittany would lose. The comfort to her and the revelation to me was that I would be able to walk them through the journey of being motherless. Sometimes we question the hardest challenges in our lives and question, “why?” I learned that every major trial and tragedy is to teach me, to strengthen me, to grown me and ultimately, to prepare me to help someone else along the way.
It has been such a blessing to be able to be a steady and constant in the life of Atina and Brittany, now 15 and 28, with Brittany being a mother of two girls.
Life is so very short…so love hard, love without regret, love till the end. If you have 1 person in your lifetime that you can call a true friend, you have been abundantly blessed.
I miss you daily, my dear Anita. You will always be the standard for what true friendship looks and feels like.
10 years ago today I woke up thinking the day before was all a bad dream…but it wasn’t. It was the day after I lost my best friend of 10 years. Anita died of cancer at the age of 35. It’s been 10…still so hard to believe sometime that she’s gone. I’ve realized over the years that a best friend is so very rare and when you get to find that bond with someone, it really is a gift. So if you have that special person that you are blessed to call a best friend, honor and treasure them.
Though I haven’t found that best friend relationship since then, I’ve been blessed to have some great friends it my life. Yesterday, the day wasn’t as emotional as I though because I got to spend part of it with 2 of my good girlfriends and speak to 3 of my good male friends.
Anita Burden Johnson, you will forever be in my heart and you spirit is with me always. When I think of you or speak your name, you are a rainbow in my day!